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I took very early retirement from teaching in '06 and did some traveling in Europe and the UK before settling down to do some private tutoring. As a voracious reader, I have many books waiting in line for me to read. Tell me I shouldn't read something, and I will. I'm a happy, optimistic person and I love to travel and through that believe that life can be a continuous learning experience. I'm looking forward to traveling more some day. I enjoy walking, cycling, water aerobics & and sports like tennis, volleyball, and fastpitch/baseball. I'm just getting into photography as a hobby and I'm enjoying learning all the bits and bobs of my digital camera. My family is everything to me and I'm delighted to be the mother of two girls and the Gramma of a boy and a girl. I may be a Gramma, but I'm at heart just a girl who wants to have fun.

Monday, October 19, 2009

N is for NAME

When I got married the first time, it was natural and expected that the wife take the husband's surname. However, not long after that it was considered acceptable that the couple take on a hyphenated name in order that the wife retain her identity. (I always wondered about that reasoning.) Then it seemed to be completely kosher that the wife keep her own (maiden) name for business reasons, but be called Mrs. XXX in personal situations.

How confusing!

When Lorne asked me to marry him, I said that I wanted to take his last name as my own. He wondered if it was really that important to me. And I said, "Absolutely!" (I think he was pleased.)

Why, you may wonder.

The surname I have now was my late husband's name, but I have never felt that I was a "Smith." His family didn't really accept me wholeheartedly and I've had no contact with any of them since before my husband died. (That's another story for another time.) I really only kept the name because of my two daughters. But now they're all grown up and one is married with two children and is know as "Mrs. Husband'ssurname."

Lorne has a Welsh surname and my maiden name was also Welsh (Jones), so I can hardly wait to take his name as my own. We both want to travel to Wales to experience our heritage, and Lorne wants to take the family Bible to donate it somewhere in the country - maybe St. Fagan's living history museum just outside of Cardiff.

It was 40 years ago that we met and started dating. Today the ring is finally on my finger and we have set a date to get married. And I can hardly wait to be called "Mrs. Evans."

26 comments:

swapnap said...

An apt N post. Glad to hear that you welcome to have your surname changed. Mrs. Evans sure sounds perfect :)

photowannabe said...

I got goose pimples reading this post. How wonderful and exciting to know that you love the man and his name and want it for your own. Mrs. Evens sounds wonderful.

Liz said...

Oh, wow, how wonderful, Mrs Smith-to-be.

Carolyn Ford said...

Congratulations and a great story! This is a perfect N post! I hope you do get to Wales to fulfill the dream for both of you.

Sylvia K said...

Oh, yes! Congratulations! Mrs. Evans to be! A great post for the day -- any day really! I send my very best wishes to you and hope you do get to have a marvelous trip to Wales! Lovely story! Thanks for sharing!

Sylvia

Babooshka said...

Mrs Evans has a certain ring to it. It sounds lucky and loving. Good personal choice for the letter.

Q said...

A wonderful n post!
I too love my married name....
Sherry

Carol said...

This is a great N post. How wonderful to feel this way about the one you love and to share it with us. I always enjoy reading your posts.

Pear tree cottage! said...

I adore the reasons you choose this post to write about today - but you cannot fool me!!! I also see it in your heart (pure happiness!!)

I have always loved visiting your posts and today is very special.

Lee-ann from Australia

Mara said...

I've always wondered what I would do: would I keep my own, would I take his, would I hyphenate his and then mine or mine and then his. Or (it's possible in the Netherlands) will he take mine?

Mrs Evans (-Jones): good name, good N

Your EG Tour Guide said...

Congratulations, Leslie! I think you'll be very happy as Mrs. Evans.

Pam said...

It's wonderful you found a sole mate to journey through the rest of your life with. It also helps to like his name if you take it as your own.

Joy said...

Enjoy introducing yourself as Mrs Evans. I too have a Welsh name, short and uncomplicated, not like my partners Scottish name which for some reason people get confused by so we always use mine in restaurants and hotels.

Roger Owen Green said...

Very liberating - YOU get to decide what you shall be called.

Rose said...

So happy for you--you and Lorne seem to be a perfect match. I think it's great that women now have a choice to keep their own name or to take their husband's. Taking your husband's surname is much more meaningful when you choose to do so!

Tumblewords: said...

A charming and lovely post!

Hildred and Charles said...

When I got married taking your husband's name was a matter of pride, - young girls used to write out their prospective name and get all excited and shivery!!!!

Maggie May said...

That is a great story and I am so pleased that you are wanting to change your name to that of your husband to be! That is a sure sign that you want to be really connected!
And brilliant to go back to Wales to the source of his name! You will find many others there with the same one! LOL!

Nuts in May

Reader Wil said...

Congratulations, Leslie! In my country, a married woman takes the husband`s name first followed by her maiden name. This is a beautiful post Leslie!

jabblog said...

Happy post! Congratulations to you, soon-to-be Mrs Evans.

Nydia said...

Leslie, this is one of the sweetest posts ever. Congrats for your new status! :o) The surname matches your first like a glove!

Kisses from Nydia.

nancygrayce said...

I was overjoyed to take my husband's name! I wanted to be part of him, that one flesh concept! :)

Dragonstar said...

Leslie, I love this post. I'm so glad you're happy, you deserve all this.
I agree with Rose, it means so much more these days when you choose to take his name!

sally in norfolk said...

a lovely lovely post.... your happiness shines through and you should be proud to take your new husbands name.. I can never understand why many wives dont do this as its part of getting married.

Belizegial said...

I concur with everyone that the name has a certain ring to it.

We have Evans and Bevans surnames here in the tropics as were once considered a British colony.

Hope your Sunday is going well.

Saludos

Trubes said...

What a lovely post Leslie, it's wonderful to read of your happiness.
I hope your family are sharing your happiness too.
When I married DT 22 years ago, the 'girls' were delighted.
I never thought I could find happiness again, then along came DT.
So..... 'N' is for...

'Never Say Never'.

Just back from our holiday in Spain so, it's 'catch up time'.
I've written a little anecdote about the trip, I hope you enjoy it!

Di.xx