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Delta, British Columbia, Canada
I took very early retirement from teaching in '06 and did some traveling in Europe and the UK before settling down to do some private tutoring. As a voracious reader, I have many books waiting in line for me to read. Tell me I shouldn't read something, and I will. I'm a happy, optimistic person and I love to travel and through that believe that life can be a continuous learning experience. I'm looking forward to traveling more some day. I enjoy walking, cycling, water aerobics & and sports like tennis, volleyball, and fastpitch/baseball. I'm just getting into photography as a hobby and I'm enjoying learning all the bits and bobs of my digital camera. My family is everything to me and I'm delighted to be the mother of two girls and the Gramma of a boy and a girl. I may be a Gramma, but I'm at heart just a girl who wants to have fun.

Tuesday, November 20, 2007

Lost Love Found

I was working on my book and using Google one day last week when I came upon a name from the past. Of course I clicked on it and lo and behold there was my first true love! I read his website (business) and looked at a couple of recent photos of him. It just swept me right back to our first meeting at the start of our 3rd year at university. Immediately, I wanted to email him to reconnect, but now I'm having doubts.

There's an excellent article from the magazine Psychology Today (here) called "Lost Love: Guess Who's Back." It states, "old flames still smolder, especially when they're early love affairs, which leave a particularly vivid mark in our minds. Reawakening such a romance can be an incendiary experience, intensely passionate and dangerous to trifle with." However, neither of us is married, so as it also states in this article, "for those free to pursue a lost-and-found love without hurting others, the rewards can be intense."

So why would I want to reconnect? I do know that he never married or had any children and now runs a lucrative business as a wilderness guide. I would never want to live permanently where he lives, and he would never want to live where I live. However, he does come to the city once in a while, and he lives in an idyllic location that could help inspire my writing and photography. So visiting back and forth would be perfect. I really don't want to get married again, but having a dalliance might be fun. And it would be exciting to see if there's still a spark there. I have a brief, very light and friendly email ready and waiting for me to hit "Send." Well? Your thoughts?

11 comments:

Josie said...

Leslie, I think you answered your own question by posting this.

He who hesitates is lost.

Make hay while the sun shines.

Never put off to tomorrow what you can do today.

Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

Better late than never.

If at first you don't succeed, try, try again....

Heard enough? Do you need me to go on? Heh, heh.

Welshcakes Limoncello said...

CONTACT HIM! NOW! Auguri from Sicily x

True Blue said...

Do it !

leslie said...

Well, I did it...after my finger hovered over the send button for several minutes. God help me! What have I done? AAAAGGGGHHHH

Janice Thomson said...

Since neither are married the outcome could be very pleasant. Do let us know if he answers...

jmb said...

Go for it. At worst you'll probably have a good old chinwag and at best, who knows?

geewits said...

Every Sunday near the wedding announcements, our newspaper runs a story about people reconnecting (or a cute way they met). Some of the "And then 45 years later..." stories are the sweetest. I'm just saying. But like Josie says, Nothing ventured, nothing gained. And like my Dad always said, "The worst things to live with are the what ifs.

Ruth said...

did he answer, did he answer?!?

leslie said...

NO!

Lone Grey Squirrel said...

Best wishes on this. Strangely, I had just posted on trying to find friends by using google just before coming over to read this.

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