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I took very early retirement from teaching in '06 and did some traveling in Europe and the UK before settling down to do some private tutoring. As a voracious reader, I have many books waiting in line for me to read. Tell me I shouldn't read something, and I will. I'm a happy, optimistic person and I love to travel and through that believe that life can be a continuous learning experience. I'm looking forward to traveling more some day. I enjoy walking, cycling, water aerobics & and sports like tennis, volleyball, and fastpitch/baseball. I'm just getting into photography as a hobby and I'm enjoying learning all the bits and bobs of my digital camera. My family is everything to me and I'm delighted to be the mother of two girls and the Gramma of a boy and a girl. I may be a Gramma, but I'm at heart just a girl who wants to have fun.

Sunday, January 20, 2008

Seduction? Ha!


There's a website called "Seduction Chronicles" - a resource for men who don't know the first thing about how to talk to a woman, ask a woman out on a date, and all sorts of other important facts if they want to be successful in the dating world.

You'd think this would be a great site for older teens and younger men, say from 20 - 35. However, from my experience men of all ages, if single, could use this resource.

I didn't start dating again until more than 5 years after my husband died. So that means it's been 10 years of on-again/off-again dating for me. You wouldn't believe the number of men over age 50 who are looking for a wife, if not just a companion - but you also wouldn't believe the number of men who still haven't learned the first thing about women!

The number 1 turnoff about men is that they talk incessantly about themselves and if the woman actually is successful in commenting on something about herself, the conversation inevitably turns back to the man.

It seems that men think it's a great compliment to say something like, "Hey, looking great. You been working out?" HUH? Isn't that something a woman says to a man?

Men also seem to think it's hilariously funny to talk about sex and tell you sex jokes. Um...I don't think so! At least not until you've actually HAD sex with each other.

Women don't want to hear about how horrid you felt this morning and how much phlegm you hacked up, either.

Where are the classy men who would like to meet a classy lady? I'd love to meet someone who takes the time and energy to actually seduce me with intelligent conversation and romance.

I am supposed to meet another potential charmer this week and I'll let you know how it goes. If it doesn't go anywhere, I'll be tempted to recommend that website mentioned above. Then I'll continue to go it alone - sometimes it's more fun that way.

27 comments:

geewits said...

Oh my, Leslie!
I can't begin to tell you how funny and timely this post is. My best friend's boyfriend runs a website and sells books on how to pick up women and he "picked up" my friend and now doesn't have a clue. I think men are more interested in getting a girlfriend than learning how to keep one. Where are the books on THAT?

jmb said...

Men just don't get it, do they?
Let's hope that this one is at least a bit more interesting than the others you have encountered. I'm very glad I'm not going through that agony but wish you luck.

Abbey said...

Love this post...ah the Canadian men, must be like the Australian...I long wistfully for one who has not lost the gentle art of flirting and seduction...

don't start me on internet dating (long since given it up) the most memorable one was the man who handed me a bouquet of flowers, and tried to feel a grope of my breast as he did! ... we hadnt even left for the date...lol

I think the problem is because these men last dated when they were 16... and are still working with those 'skills'... :)

Casdok said...

Im totally with you on this!

Good luck with your date!

Anne in Oxfordshire said...

I agree with all these others, they just don;t get it!!!!!

Good luck with your date, look forward to hearing about it.

Ellee Seymour said...

I'd beware of the charmers, they can be too false. But good luck, it's fun finding out.

Josie said...

Leslie, well, the problem with me is that I meet the lovely, intelligent charmers, and they court me and then they seem to find me boring and leave without even saying goodbye. I will never let myself trust anyone again. Ever. It's the single life for me.

Seduction Chronicles said...

I can feel your pain Leslie. Thanks for the kind words.

You know, the more I run the blog, the more responsibility to spread the word that men need to forget about trying to "impress" women, and live their lives with passion!

They become much more interesting, and in turn, seduce better!

I hope your date goes well! If not, send him my way!

Tai said...

Oh, they are so far and few between those kind of men...but good luck!

nancygrayce said...

Leslie, I kissed (or not) a lot of toads before I found the superhero! And even he has only rare moments of romance after 12 years of marriage. But he's the greatest and solid as a rock! We met at the walking park....I realize it may be a little cold for that right now. Wait for just the right man though....it is worth the wait...I always say God saved me from some of the ones I dated! :)

Welshcakes Limoncello said...

Oh, Leslie, I agree with everything you say here! What is the matter with them all?? Yes, do let us know how it goes.... !

BBC said...

To heck with women, especially women that don't get it. I'm lucky in that I live next door to maybe one of the most wonderful and wise women on this planet.

Don't tell me that men don't get it, you women are not any better at it than men are. Because you are just so self centered.

Just saying. But I wouldn't trade Helen for most women, they are too needy and wouldn't make a pimple on her butt.

Again, just saying. :-)

leslie said...

anyone care to debate bbc? ;D

just askin'

geewits said...

Leslie,
No. I've learned from years of hanging out in bars: Never argue with an old coot. They won't hear a word you say.

shooting star said...

hmm...where are the good men...married to a very clever woman i guess....
thankfully i got hold of a GOOD guy on time and married him......

Liz said...

Oh Leslie, you should talk to Shirl!

I really hope this one is, at very least, pleasant company. The rest can develop later.

Great writing about it though!

Josie said...

Okay, BBC, define needy. I have always wondered what that meant. You are about to have a woman President of the United States. Make no mistake - Hillary will win. Her husband screwed around on her. Do you think he did because he claimed she was "too needy"?

Just asking.

Nancy said...

Good luck on the date... I look forward to hearing all about it. I agree with you on the "man mentality"... their brains are just different!

Smalltown RN said...

Oh my friend I feel so bad...I haven't been around for a little bit and feel like I have missed so much...I was looking at all your previous posts....that dog is so adorable....

Now as for that dating thing....I did the online thing...and boy did I meet a lot of toads...I mean I thought if I screened them on line and we had conversation that would give me an idea as to whether I wanted to meet them....when I did meet a few of them....I don't know what I was thinking....they were shorter or older or well just weren't what they presented themselves to be while we chatted on line....I don't know how I could have been so wrong....but you know....I did meet my hubby on line...so it is possible....I wish you luck on your date...

Ruth D~ said...

Oh I've been busy and out of the blog loop for too long. Look what i've missed. I want the next chapter-The Date. My younger friends complain about the same thing.

BBC said...

Josie said, "Okay, BBC, define needy."

That's easy, needy is wanting more than you have. If you have a roof over your head and food I think that you should be thankful.

I do and I am. All I have is all I need, so why do you women always want so much more? Do you really think it will make you 'more happy'?

The happiest woman I know (Helen) has about six lights and a transistor radio and some old furniture. Could you be happy with that? I don't think so, but she is.

Sure, come to my blog and debate it with me. But my blog isn't for anyone weak of heart and soul, and anyone with an IQ under a 120.

Sure, scoff at the bat shit crazy stuff on it. But those with the highest IQ's know that they are.

Everyone else thinks they are sane. Yeah, right, even Einstein knew that he was bat shit crazy.

enigma4ever said...

Most of the women here bring up great points....and have seen it all and I think that most women really know men better than they wish they did. Intelligent women are able to admit when enough is NOT enough- that they have souls and depth....and that Life is precious....and I think many of us are searching for a soul mate to share our path......

Some are lucky and have found Men of Substance...

And some of us realize that Men of Substance are a rare thing indeed....but worth waiting for, and that wasting time with "Lesser Men " is indeed a waste of prescious time.....

Why date so a man can that is self obsessed and narcissistic ? ( and believe me- over 40 they are a dime a dozen for some reason)....Real Men are rare....

And to any men that read this, Women like to be acknowledged as Intelligent, Wise and Beautiful.....they like to be told that and shown that.....They like nice meals, good conversation and men that look at them as real people.....and admire them as Intelligent and Articulate....

I know no "Needy " woman, I know women that are Strong, Wise, and Creative.....Neanderthals view women as "needy".....The women that blog know better.....always.

leslie said...

Thanks everyone for sharing your points of view. I know I am not "needy" for a husband. I do not "need" a man for his money or position, or for children. At this stage in my life I just think it'd still be nice to be able to love and be loved by a good man and to share what's left of my life with him. I have loved and been loved so I know what it's like and would love to have that again, even in old age. Whatever your viewpoint, I think we can all agree that love is precious and unfortunately in these days, rare.

heiresschild said...

i guess that's one of the reasons why i haven't dated. i don't like to waste my time, and i can tell thru my initial conversations i've had with the ones i've met to keep on moving.

Lone Grey Squirrel said...

I was waiting for Ivan to comment. Ivan? Are you there? Me? I know nothing! Well, I know enough not to comment on this topic!

Welshcakes Limoncello said...

I agree, Leslie. What's the matter with them all? Can't wait to hear about the latest one!

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